The list comes in response to a recent Decoding Desire survey of nearly 2,000 respondents which found 60% of men and women were not satisfied with their sex lives. It revealed a variety of factors contributing to this widespread dissatisfaction, including a lack of communication between partners, insufficient knowledge about sexual health and pleasure, and prevailing myths and misconceptions surrounding sexuality. According to the data, 95% of survey respondents expressed a lack of communication – not voicing desires, needs and boundaries. A lot of people often wish they had more sex.
However, the survey data revealed more sexual activity doesn’t necessarily equal a happy sex life; with one in five long-term couples suffering from a libido mismatch. Beducated emphasizes the need to focus on quality over quantity. The research found that 50% of participants yearned to try something fresh in the bedroom, with experimentation and new techniques suggested to keep things interesting. Additionally, two out of three women admitted to having faked an orgasm to avoid hurting their partner’s ego, as prolonging sex until one of the parties reaches climax can be counterproductive.
Bededucated recommends focusing on pleasure rather than focusing solely on reaching orgasm. The data found that 61% of Decoding Desire participants said stress directly impacted their sex lives, and practicing mental and physical self-care, along with more physical activity and exercise, can boost sexual satisfaction, desire, and confidence. Furthermore, the findings revealed that one in four women experience low or absent libido – nearly double the rate of men. Being mindful of partners’ daily stresses and taking more time to explore intimate moments together can help balance this inequality.
Data from Decoding Desire found that Beducated students were 67% more likely to be satisfied with their sex lives than the general average. This suggests that sex education should be regarded as a continuous learning process rather than a one-time event. On this note, Beducated co-founder Mariah Freya stated: “Couples often find their passion dimming amid the hustle of daily life, children and the sheer exhaustion of day-to-day responsibilities.”
